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Difficult People: Can't Change Them, so Change Yourself


It would be easy to say that to deal with difficult people you should be tolerant and accept people's differences. This sounds nice, and might work in the short term, but if you are working with people you find difficult and you expect to be working with them for some period of time – you are better off learning how to respond and relate to them. The approach you use depends on the person, the situation, and your willingness to build and blend skills as needed. Dealing with difficult people requires that you first learn how to manage yourself with them. This means being self-aware and practicing self-management. It also means tuning into the feelings and emotions of others, however difficult it might be. When you know what triggers you and how you typically react, you can build skills to help make your interactions with others more productive. This is emotional intelligence, and if you build this capacity, you will be able to deal more effectively with many difficulties in life (including other people)!

Lesson Objectives

  • recognize how your own perspective can reshape your view of difficult people

  • identify actions to take to increase self-awareness

  • identify reactions that show self-awareness

  • recognize the signs that signal the need for self-management

  • choose reactions that reflect meditative techniques

  • choose reactions that reflect thinking techniques

  • identify your own behavior style and that of others

  • choose appropriate behavior to overcome negative conduct

  • use self-awareness and self-management techniques to enable more successful working relationships with difficult people


Expected Duration (hours)

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